Discipleship and the Religious Right

I've been fairly conservative, politically, for many years now, and I still find myself generally coming down on the conservative side of a lot of issues. However, recently, I've decided that I don't want to be associated with the so-called "religious right" any longer.

It seems to me that there is a lot of denial among my brothers and sisters on the religious right. There are certain realities at work in our nation, and we need to wake up to them. Here are a few:
#1. The so-called "culture wars" are over. Long over.
#2. "We" lost.
#3. While "we" still have a lot of economic power, which we are using to buy influence in the judiciary and in government, the national culture itself is clearly post-Chrisitan.
#4. There is no going back. Our culture isn't going to revert to the overly-idealized, pristine "church-going" culture of the 1950s (which probably never existed in the way we imagine, anyway, and which had its own set of VERY SERIOUS problems).
#5. Thats okay, because Christians may have a lot to learn as we find ourselves in an emerging culture: mostly about how we allowed our beliefs to become too heavily influenced by modernism. God will use these changes to shape us more into the image of Jesus.
#6. Probably, "we" deserved to lose, because of the way we have ignored the mission of Jesus in our churches.

What do I mean by that last point? Here are a couple of examples:

If Jesus were walking among us in our nation, here are some things that I think he would probably do within our nation's gay and lesbian communities:
- Heal those afflicted with AIDS
- Defend them against people who seek to harm them because of their actions
- Eat with them
- Accept their acts of worship
- Serve them
- Die for them

Here is one thing I very much doubt he would be doing:
- Raise money and create organizations to make sure the courts and political powers refuse to recognize that gays and lesbians can be married.

Here are some of the things that I think he would probably do within those communities that do not follow the Judeo-Christian traditions:
- Heal their sick
- Talk to them, asking for help when needed, and offering to help them
- Admire their faith in Him, when appropriate
- Feed their hungry
- Clothe their poor
- Eat with them
- Die for them

Again, here is one thing that I doubt he would be doing:
- Hiring lawyers and donating money to politicians who are committed to ensure that the Ten Commandments can be taught in schools and displayed in public places.

It is also not difficult for me to imagine Jesus marching into many of our churches and speaking out against them - in the most offensive ways - as he did the Pharisees, for being more concerned with maintaining their own power and influence than helping the downtrodden and oppressed.

I suppose that I could be wrong about this. But the more I read the gospels, the more convinced I become that it is in self-sacrifice and service - even...no, ESPECIALLY among those with whom we disagree - that we become Christ-like. On the other hand, efforts to seize and maintain political, legal, and economic power so that we can use our power to force people to live in ways that they don't want - those actions seem to go agains the grain of everything that I see Jesus doing in the gospels.

The question seems simple: should we be laying down our lives for those outside of our faith communities so that they will see the gospel in action? Or should we align ourselves against them politically and legally and try to use the power of the state to force things on them that they just don't want?

What am I missing here?